This week has been interesting....It has been full of inconveniences, emptying of my wallet where I'd rather not have, month end at work, health scares, and having hardly any time to spend with my boo.
Now this may sound like complaining. I'm not. These are just the facts.
Yet, instead of being super bummed out or sad or very frustrated (like I normally get when these kind of days/weeks go down) I have felt humbled.
Has this week been frustrating, anxiety filled, sad, lonely? Yes, but everything has worked out. I mean, everything always works out but this time it all worked out within the day the issue was happening.
And that never happens to me.
It's off-putting to say the least.
But I'm glad.
The universe was speaking to me this week, I think. It said "Listen...we're gonna throw some inconveniences and such your way this week...but understand that I've got your back and you just need to recognize that."
And I did.
For example: I woke up yesterday with a flat tire. BOO. I waited on roadside assistance to put on my spare so I could get a new tire. Turns out, I needed 2 new tires. BOO. Because of said tire incident I was 2.5 hours late to work and $260 poorer. BOO. Yesterday was month end (which means end of deadlines) and month end (meaning rent was due.) BOO.
But here's what the universe did for me to make up for this irksome event (and believe me: this is one of many events like this that have happened this week.) It said "Hey, since you booked 2 trips yesterday (paying $620) I'm gonna flatten your tire. Not fun...but since you got 3 paychecks instead of 2 this month AND your bills are all paid I'm gonna go ahead and take care of that car problem. Silly Jordan, you need to be safe on the road! Good thing you booked the trips AND got new tires, right? Sorry (not sorry) about you wanting to spend that money willy-nilly."
Weird, right?
They say timing is everything and I think I'm just starting to believe it. This 3rd paycheck I had planned on getting some new summer clothes, helping D with his trip in 2 weeks, etceteras. The universe had other plans instead BUT...I guess I can't blame it when it's just looking out for my safety, right? It's nice to be humbled every now and again.
Now go outside and look up. Enjoy the vastness that you're a part of because I know I will.
Happy Saturday!
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Saturday, June 1, 2013
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Recycling-Part I: Knowing Your Products
As I stated in my 101 blog, part I will be about getting to know your products. This includes what you buy, what it comes in, and how it impacts your daily living and (more importantly) the earth. Sometimes I'm astounded by how small and intricate some things (like plastic or cardboard) are involved in products. Now that doesn't mean you have to get down into the inner workings of everything you touch (although it doesn't hurt I'm sure...) but it should really let you see just how much of this stuff we use all of the time and how it gets tossed away...NEVER to leave the earth again. It gets tossed in a landfill, tossed out the car window, tossed out in space (is that really a thing?!). Tossed, tossed, tossed!
Okay so, what products should be recycled you ask? Here is a quick list to get you started:
In our house I've noticed that we have a LOT of cardboard...like a ton. It comes on everything! Due to this, we've tried to get products that have less of it BUT aren't willing to trade it for packaging that is going to be trash. It's a hit or miss sometimes but worth the time to look for alternatives.
Although these products cannot be recycled, some can be replaced or revamped. For example: a lot of food considered trash can be composted as mulch for a garden. Or you can make/buy some cloth grocery bags to skip getting plastic ones altogether. You can often donate tires to car junk yards (if they're in decent shape) as well as other car parts for scrap metal. Again, check with your local center about what is/is not acceptable to recycle there.
I ask you, dear reader, to spend 1 month noting what products you buy, what they come in, and what you can recycle from it. It's a bit time consuming to start but WORTH IT. You notice just how much we waste on a lot of temporary products. I can promise you'll be astounded! I'd suggest if you're just starting out to take inventory of what you notice you're throwing away the most. Like I stated, I had no idea just how much cardboard we were tossing away until I really started to pay attention. Now I can't turn it off and am SO glad we're recycling a lot more of it now!
So lovelies, do some research. Take part in recycling, not as a movement but as a lifestyle change. It's a pretty painless process and has SO many benefits. I promise it will be worth it!
Okay so, what products should be recycled you ask? Here is a quick list to get you started:
| Aerosol cans containing no propellant or material |
| Aluminum: Cans and clean foil |
| Beverage and food containers: Clean glass, steel, and tin |
Mixed paper:
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| Plastic bottles or containers with a #1-7 recycling symbol on the bottom (rigid plastic only, not plastic film) |
| Molded Styrofoam packaging |
There are other products like batteries, paint, toner cartridges, and more that can still be recycled although the methods are a bit different due to the chemicals involved. Check with your local centers to see what their practices are and what they do/do not take (more about that in part II.)
When I read this list here are just a few of the (thousands of) products that come to mind here in our household:
-junk mail
-shampoo and/or body wash bottles (look on the bottom to find the number)
-soda cans (or in our case now-V8 cans)
-milk jugs
-pasta sauce jars
-printer paper (thesis drafts anyone?!)
-bug spray canisters (or hairspray)
-cereal boxes (boxboard)
-make-up containers (foundation-glass/plastic, eye pallets-plastic)
-mail packages (corrugated cardboard)
In our house I've noticed that we have a LOT of cardboard...like a ton. It comes on everything! Due to this, we've tried to get products that have less of it BUT aren't willing to trade it for packaging that is going to be trash. It's a hit or miss sometimes but worth the time to look for alternatives.
You should not recycle the following (amongst others):
-plastic film (think DVD packaging)
-Styrofoam
-trash
-tissue/paper towels
-plastic bags (think grocery bags)
-tires
-medical products
-diapers
Although these products cannot be recycled, some can be replaced or revamped. For example: a lot of food considered trash can be composted as mulch for a garden. Or you can make/buy some cloth grocery bags to skip getting plastic ones altogether. You can often donate tires to car junk yards (if they're in decent shape) as well as other car parts for scrap metal. Again, check with your local center about what is/is not acceptable to recycle there.
I ask you, dear reader, to spend 1 month noting what products you buy, what they come in, and what you can recycle from it. It's a bit time consuming to start but WORTH IT. You notice just how much we waste on a lot of temporary products. I can promise you'll be astounded! I'd suggest if you're just starting out to take inventory of what you notice you're throwing away the most. Like I stated, I had no idea just how much cardboard we were tossing away until I really started to pay attention. Now I can't turn it off and am SO glad we're recycling a lot more of it now!
So lovelies, do some research. Take part in recycling, not as a movement but as a lifestyle change. It's a pretty painless process and has SO many benefits. I promise it will be worth it!
Sunday, February 24, 2013
Recycling 101 (An Introduction)
I was fortunate enough to grow up in a family that recycle(s/d). My mom married my (ex) stepdad when I was only 5 so from 5-12 I was exposed to and taught a lot about recycling. In that house we recycled:
My stepdad made this neat spot in our pantry where it all went. We had 6 LARGE tupperware bins placed on a homemade shelf and we just stuck the appropriate product in the correct bin. Easy! Although they divorced, his habits rolled over and my mom, my sister, and myself still practice recycling. I'm super glad about that!
As silly as it may sound, I also remember Nickelodeon having a large impact on my views towards recycling, water conservation, and animal care. Back in the 1990s I remember a lot of television, books, and discussions regarding being earth conscious and "green" (although I don't remember it being such a movement until the mid 2000s). I'm so glad for this!
Both of these things have had a huge impact on my daily living and practices. I am glad that I have also rubbed off on Derrick and that he is fine with these practices as well because frankly, I don't want to budge on it.
This means that in working towards my yearly goal of going green(er) and continuing and expanding the patterns we've developed in our habits, I will be setting up our own little recycle depot in our hall closet. I'm super excited about it! I've got to relearn some of my products and disposal practices and teach Derrick about them but I think it's totally worth it. So check back for part I where I will be discussing what products are and are not right for recycling. In part II, I'll be discussing what should be recycled where and the actual impact recycling has on your home, your community, and your world! Part III will be how to upcycle-recycling things in your home to become newer/different things without having to take them to a center, look at labels, etc.
Are you ready to greenify your living practices?! Because I promise: once you get in the habit of recycling it becomes easy-peasy and you'll really notice a difference!
Cans (soda and beer)
Glass (bottles)
Cardboard (from cereal boxes, etc.)
Mixed paper (letters, mail, etc.)
Plastic (milk jugs, soda bottles, etc.)
Magazines and Newspapers
My stepdad made this neat spot in our pantry where it all went. We had 6 LARGE tupperware bins placed on a homemade shelf and we just stuck the appropriate product in the correct bin. Easy! Although they divorced, his habits rolled over and my mom, my sister, and myself still practice recycling. I'm super glad about that!
As silly as it may sound, I also remember Nickelodeon having a large impact on my views towards recycling, water conservation, and animal care. Back in the 1990s I remember a lot of television, books, and discussions regarding being earth conscious and "green" (although I don't remember it being such a movement until the mid 2000s). I'm so glad for this!
Both of these things have had a huge impact on my daily living and practices. I am glad that I have also rubbed off on Derrick and that he is fine with these practices as well because frankly, I don't want to budge on it.
If you're a newbie to recycling, may I suggest a few things first?
1) Get to know your products (part I). Know: what you buy, what it comes in, and how it impacts your daily living and (more importantly) the earth.
2) Take note (for about a month) of how often you're throwing "trash" away and what you're actually throwing out...you'd be ASTOUNDED to see how very wasteful we are (as a nation and as individuals)!
3) Look for your local recycle centers/pickups for your town. Recycling has become a lot less stressful with the green movements that really came about in the 2000s. There is curbside pickup (just like your trash), centers for drop off, and some centers for cash exchange (namely cans and metals).
4) Understand where to recycle what (part II) and why it's important.
5) Once you're feeling comfortable...EDUCATE! Teach your friends, family, children, co-workers basic recycling practices that can really make a huge impact.
This means that in working towards my yearly goal of going green(er) and continuing and expanding the patterns we've developed in our habits, I will be setting up our own little recycle depot in our hall closet. I'm super excited about it! I've got to relearn some of my products and disposal practices and teach Derrick about them but I think it's totally worth it. So check back for part I where I will be discussing what products are and are not right for recycling. In part II, I'll be discussing what should be recycled where and the actual impact recycling has on your home, your community, and your world! Part III will be how to upcycle-recycling things in your home to become newer/different things without having to take them to a center, look at labels, etc.
Are you ready to greenify your living practices?! Because I promise: once you get in the habit of recycling it becomes easy-peasy and you'll really notice a difference!
Saturday, January 5, 2013
Wasteful Practices
I have a bad habit of wasting things. Time, money, perfume, food, etc.
Now I need to clarify. I don't waste these things in the typical manner. I instead cling to them, refusing to (usually) use them how they're meant to be used.
Let me give you examples:
Time-I try to micromanage my time every day. This means I try to fit in as much as possible in any given day so that I feel both accomplished and caught up. Some of you may be wondering how this is wasting time...well I've come to realize that when doing this day after day after day I am cramming so much into my days to get things done that I'm not always enjoying what I'm doing. While yes, I am managing my time by making sure a lot is getting done so that I can enjoy time LATER...sometimes later doesn't come for quite a while.
Money-I have always been a money pincher, saver, miser almost. I grew up without much of it and saw the struggles my family had and (in retrospect) the sacrifices they made in order to ensure we had food on the table and clothes on our back. I am forever grateful for this because I've learned to manage my bills really well and budget accordingly for the things we both need and want. BUT...I have a habit of seeing any money that comes to our family as a bill. Seriously. I recently graduated and when I first got some money I thought "I need to stick this in my savings for my student loans". This isn't a bad idea by any means but I also realized that this was free money that was given as a gift for my accomplishments and should be used how I wanted to.
**Please note that I would NOT have spent money willy-nilly if we legitimately needed it for bills or savings. Thankfully we're in decent shape.**
Perfumes/body washes/lotions-I love these things and the ones I find really amazing I hardly ever use. I usually use them on special occasions and then they gather dust until another special occasion comes up. Because of this, I have like 10 bottles of perfume/body sprays, 5 big lotions all about 1/4 empty, and oodles of body washes. How silly! Interestingly, my family also passed on the habit of using things to the last drop (so we don't waste the other way) but when Christmas and birthdays roll around I tend to get a load of these things (one reason why I rack up so much)! When I really sit and think about it I can totally see consumerism and the Western (read: American) tendency to hoard and have multiple things just for the sake of having them, of having "choices". Some of you may wonder why this is an issue. Let me explain: most perfumes, for example, have alcohol in them. This means that after a certain amount of time the mixed scents (artificial or natural) will wear off and most of the scent smells like decayed and diluted rubbing alcohol. So you spend $50 on a perfume you use maybe 4 times a year and after about 2 years you are really just spraying yourself with an alcohol and chemical base! No thank you. Lotions and body washes are a bit different but after time they too change scents and consistency.
Unfortunately, many of us live in a culture that does things in excess. Wastes times, money, food, energy, goods in another bad way: by disposing of things when we're done with them instead of recycling, reanalyzing, and reworking. I am glad I'm not a waster along these lines but waste is still waste!
So what have I taken from this introspection? I need to actually USE! Use my time (and enjoy having it), use my money for some pleasure AS WELL as for savings and bills, use the body washes and such on a daily basis instead of for a special occasion, light the fancy candles, wear the fancy clothes, and ENJOY it all...because everyday is special!
I urge you to reassess your habits and see if you're wasting things in either of these ways. It can save you time, money, and energy not to mention add happiness, balance, and possible good smells! =]
Now I need to clarify. I don't waste these things in the typical manner. I instead cling to them, refusing to (usually) use them how they're meant to be used.
Let me give you examples:
Time-I try to micromanage my time every day. This means I try to fit in as much as possible in any given day so that I feel both accomplished and caught up. Some of you may be wondering how this is wasting time...well I've come to realize that when doing this day after day after day I am cramming so much into my days to get things done that I'm not always enjoying what I'm doing. While yes, I am managing my time by making sure a lot is getting done so that I can enjoy time LATER...sometimes later doesn't come for quite a while.
Money-I have always been a money pincher, saver, miser almost. I grew up without much of it and saw the struggles my family had and (in retrospect) the sacrifices they made in order to ensure we had food on the table and clothes on our back. I am forever grateful for this because I've learned to manage my bills really well and budget accordingly for the things we both need and want. BUT...I have a habit of seeing any money that comes to our family as a bill. Seriously. I recently graduated and when I first got some money I thought "I need to stick this in my savings for my student loans". This isn't a bad idea by any means but I also realized that this was free money that was given as a gift for my accomplishments and should be used how I wanted to.
**Please note that I would NOT have spent money willy-nilly if we legitimately needed it for bills or savings. Thankfully we're in decent shape.**
Perfumes/body washes/lotions-I love these things and the ones I find really amazing I hardly ever use. I usually use them on special occasions and then they gather dust until another special occasion comes up. Because of this, I have like 10 bottles of perfume/body sprays, 5 big lotions all about 1/4 empty, and oodles of body washes. How silly! Interestingly, my family also passed on the habit of using things to the last drop (so we don't waste the other way) but when Christmas and birthdays roll around I tend to get a load of these things (one reason why I rack up so much)! When I really sit and think about it I can totally see consumerism and the Western (read: American) tendency to hoard and have multiple things just for the sake of having them, of having "choices". Some of you may wonder why this is an issue. Let me explain: most perfumes, for example, have alcohol in them. This means that after a certain amount of time the mixed scents (artificial or natural) will wear off and most of the scent smells like decayed and diluted rubbing alcohol. So you spend $50 on a perfume you use maybe 4 times a year and after about 2 years you are really just spraying yourself with an alcohol and chemical base! No thank you. Lotions and body washes are a bit different but after time they too change scents and consistency.
Unfortunately, many of us live in a culture that does things in excess. Wastes times, money, food, energy, goods in another bad way: by disposing of things when we're done with them instead of recycling, reanalyzing, and reworking. I am glad I'm not a waster along these lines but waste is still waste!
So what have I taken from this introspection? I need to actually USE! Use my time (and enjoy having it), use my money for some pleasure AS WELL as for savings and bills, use the body washes and such on a daily basis instead of for a special occasion, light the fancy candles, wear the fancy clothes, and ENJOY it all...because everyday is special!
I urge you to reassess your habits and see if you're wasting things in either of these ways. It can save you time, money, and energy not to mention add happiness, balance, and possible good smells! =]
Saturday, December 8, 2012
Growth
I sit back and am overwhelmed by how much I have grown. For that, I am glad.
I am glad I have overcome much of my earlier narrowmindedness,
glad I have grown into a real love with my spouse,
glad I have grown into my own beliefs and morals,
glad I have worked hard,
glad I have grown to love donating and helping people,
glad I feel more comfortable about what I want to do with my life,
glad I have learned SO much, which (obviously) helped me grow leaps and bounds,
glad I have worked to accept myself more for who I am and what I want to be,
glad I have met some people who have changed me for the better,
glad I have continued growth and passion for literature and writing,
glad I have a place to call home, where my growth can form at its own pace,
glad I have a family who nurtures my growth and path,
glad I have recognized many of my weaknesses and want to work on a lot of them,
glad I have undergone such metamorphosis with some truly incredible people alongside me,
glad I have grown-up, down, in, and out.
I am so proud of myself and SO excited to grow more.
I am glad I have overcome much of my earlier narrowmindedness,
glad I have grown into a real love with my spouse,
glad I have grown into my own beliefs and morals,
glad I have worked hard,
glad I have grown to love donating and helping people,
glad I feel more comfortable about what I want to do with my life,
glad I have learned SO much, which (obviously) helped me grow leaps and bounds,
glad I have worked to accept myself more for who I am and what I want to be,
glad I have met some people who have changed me for the better,
glad I have continued growth and passion for literature and writing,
glad I have a place to call home, where my growth can form at its own pace,
glad I have a family who nurtures my growth and path,
glad I have recognized many of my weaknesses and want to work on a lot of them,
glad I have undergone such metamorphosis with some truly incredible people alongside me,
glad I have grown-up, down, in, and out.
I am so proud of myself and SO excited to grow more.
Friday, October 5, 2012
I haven't been meaning to neglect you...
...but I've been in a whirlwind of emotion and stress lately. Let me catch you up:
*I was let go of my job 5 weeks ago. While it was pretty hard for me it has provided me with the adequate time needed to really focus on my last semester of graduate school. That being said, stress regarding finances and what I'm going to do after December is pretty high at the moment.
*I have stopped taking birth control. It may not seem like that big of a deal but after being on some form of BC for 10 years, my body is trying to synch back up to normal and my hormones are WAY out of whack. I did not go off so we could have a kid. We are using other methods of contraception-just nothing based in hormones and chemicals. So I've got a sour stomach, super depressy hormons etc. that I'm trying to deal with
*I am trying to finish my thesis. Like I said: I am fortunate to NOT have a job right now so I can focus on this but I am still stressing out. I'm putting so much pressure on myself that I get sick daily (this was happening before I went off BC). The worst that will happen is that on PAPER I won't graduate until May 2013 and I'll have to pay $450 for 1 credit hour next semester. Regardless, my classes will be done so I can get a full time job, have insurance, and benefits again (and DUH-money)!
*I have gone meatless for the month of October. While it's really neat (and saving me money in not buying fast food) it's probably bad timing, lol. I plan on writing a massive blog after day 31 with details, tips, stuggles and accomplishments I've found in this diet.
I don't know if I'm stressing out so much because I'm so close or because I am constantly thinking about getting a job in this horrible job market....
I by NO means am busier than my fellow grads and professors. I am amazed and oftentimes intimidated by how much they (and by they I USUALLY mean we) can fit into schedules. I used to be one of those people and as of late...I just suck at it! I think it's because I miss routine and I miss being busy.
I will say graduate school has thus far been the hardest thing I've ever done (with the exception of this thesis...THAT'S the hardest)! It's kind of awesome but still hard. I have put more tears, hard work, time, and energy into these past 2 years than I have in pretty much anything else (besides my marriage-I work on that daily =])
I think I'm just ready. Ready for a break from school, ready to work again, ready to explore options for a Ph. D program, ready to potentially move and start a new chapter of my life.
Ah well. Luck, prayers, good thoughts, etc. are welcome this way if you feel so inclined. I'll take it!
*I was let go of my job 5 weeks ago. While it was pretty hard for me it has provided me with the adequate time needed to really focus on my last semester of graduate school. That being said, stress regarding finances and what I'm going to do after December is pretty high at the moment.
*I have stopped taking birth control. It may not seem like that big of a deal but after being on some form of BC for 10 years, my body is trying to synch back up to normal and my hormones are WAY out of whack. I did not go off so we could have a kid. We are using other methods of contraception-just nothing based in hormones and chemicals. So I've got a sour stomach, super depressy hormons etc. that I'm trying to deal with
*I am trying to finish my thesis. Like I said: I am fortunate to NOT have a job right now so I can focus on this but I am still stressing out. I'm putting so much pressure on myself that I get sick daily (this was happening before I went off BC). The worst that will happen is that on PAPER I won't graduate until May 2013 and I'll have to pay $450 for 1 credit hour next semester. Regardless, my classes will be done so I can get a full time job, have insurance, and benefits again (and DUH-money)!
*I have gone meatless for the month of October. While it's really neat (and saving me money in not buying fast food) it's probably bad timing, lol. I plan on writing a massive blog after day 31 with details, tips, stuggles and accomplishments I've found in this diet.
I don't know if I'm stressing out so much because I'm so close or because I am constantly thinking about getting a job in this horrible job market....
I by NO means am busier than my fellow grads and professors. I am amazed and oftentimes intimidated by how much they (and by they I USUALLY mean we) can fit into schedules. I used to be one of those people and as of late...I just suck at it! I think it's because I miss routine and I miss being busy.
I will say graduate school has thus far been the hardest thing I've ever done (with the exception of this thesis...THAT'S the hardest)! It's kind of awesome but still hard. I have put more tears, hard work, time, and energy into these past 2 years than I have in pretty much anything else (besides my marriage-I work on that daily =])
I think I'm just ready. Ready for a break from school, ready to work again, ready to explore options for a Ph. D program, ready to potentially move and start a new chapter of my life.
Ah well. Luck, prayers, good thoughts, etc. are welcome this way if you feel so inclined. I'll take it!
Sunday, October 9, 2011
SlutWalk 2011
On October 2nd I attended the Nashville SlutWalk. It was a peace walk for sexual assault victims to raise awareness of the social stigma of the term "slut" and the issues we have in teaching (mostly) women on how not to get raped.
The issue really is in teaching (mostly) men on how NOT to rape!!
Check out some of the awesome signs everyone made and some other pictures.
It was a wonderful experience to know so many people wanted to come together to bring about more awareness for sexual assault victims. I left after about an hour but when I left they did another walk and then held a candle light vigil in honor of those victims. VERY cool. Make sure you educate your self and others around you!
I suggest next time the SW rolls around in your town for you to attend-totally worth it.
The issue really is in teaching (mostly) men on how NOT to rape!!
Check out some of the awesome signs everyone made and some other pictures.
Jamie's sign
I love this!
Jamie and CJ and their shirts and sign. The shirts say "Got consent?" and "It's a dress-not a yes!"
More signs-at the start of walk #1.
A group coming back from walk #1-it was such a large group!! SO many signs and activism =]
My sign-it says "We do NOT ask for it."
Some of the group sitting listening to Stella Parton (author and sister to Dolly) describe her sexual assault, give some alarming stats, and sing us a song from the movie "The Color Purple". Very inspiring.
It was a wonderful experience to know so many people wanted to come together to bring about more awareness for sexual assault victims. I left after about an hour but when I left they did another walk and then held a candle light vigil in honor of those victims. VERY cool. Make sure you educate your self and others around you!
I suggest next time the SW rolls around in your town for you to attend-totally worth it.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
We can all help
This summer, I took an entire class completely devoted to topics on violence within the family. It is sad that there have been so many victims and so much hurt that courses and seminars are being taught regarding it! What was once normal practice, and then a taboo topic has finally made its way into the limelight of the criminal justice system and into mainstream societal issues.
So today, for previous victims and for those who want to help prevent further victims, I am dedicating this blog to facts about violence against women in the family setting, information on where/how to seek help, and asking for your help in making a change.
**NOTE: This won't be a happy/cheery blog but it doesn't need to be; there is nothing happy or cheery about this type of abuse. But this is not about male bashing or making you think all partners are out to hurt you-it's about taking a stand, making those around aware of the prevalence and issues we face, and letting those who may be in these circumstances know that they are not alone.**
Does this not astound you? It makes me sick to my stomach. The worse part is: we have probably all come into contact with a victim of this type of abuse, whether we knew it or not. So I am here to take a stand against it. I am speaking out, trying to inform the masses about these issues and how they need to stop. There is enough violence in the world without intimate partners getting involved in the mix. If we push the idea of the family being the safe-haven then let us MAKE IT a safe haven!
I hope I raised you up! I hope you realize the prevalence of these issues! I hope you want to HELP! I hope you took notice, understood that this is much more common than most realize, and that there are always ways that you can help!
November is the National Domestic Violence Awareness month so let’s get some donations/volunteering and knowledge under our belts by then!
Remember to share the love,
JR
So today, for previous victims and for those who want to help prevent further victims, I am dedicating this blog to facts about violence against women in the family setting, information on where/how to seek help, and asking for your help in making a change.
**NOTE: This won't be a happy/cheery blog but it doesn't need to be; there is nothing happy or cheery about this type of abuse. But this is not about male bashing or making you think all partners are out to hurt you-it's about taking a stand, making those around aware of the prevalence and issues we face, and letting those who may be in these circumstances know that they are not alone.**
Some Facts
* Approximately 4.8 million intimate partner rapes and physical assaults are perpetrated against U.S. women annually, and approximately 2.9 million intimate partner physical assaults are committed against U.S. men annually. These findings suggest that intimate partner violence is a serious criminal justice and public health concern. (NVAW Survey 2000).
*Violence against women includes but is not limited to the following: 1) Physical, sexual, and psychological violence occurring in the family, including battering; sexual abuse of children in the household, dowry-related violence, marital rape, female genital mutilation and other traditional practices harmful to women, non-spousal violence, and violence related to exploitation. 2) Physical, sexual, and psychological violence occurring within the general community including rape, sexual abuse, sexual harassment and intimidation at work and educational institutions and elsewhere, trafficking in women, and forced prostitution. 3) Physical, sexual, and psychological violence perpetrated or condoned by the State, wherever it occurs.
*1 Woman is killed every 7.4 hours by an intimate partner in the United States. (FBI, 2005)
*Among women aged 15 to 44 years, violence against women accounts for more death and disability than cancer, malaria, traffic injuries, and war put together.
Does this not astound you? It makes me sick to my stomach. The worse part is: we have probably all come into contact with a victim of this type of abuse, whether we knew it or not. So I am here to take a stand against it. I am speaking out, trying to inform the masses about these issues and how they need to stop. There is enough violence in the world without intimate partners getting involved in the mix. If we push the idea of the family being the safe-haven then let us MAKE IT a safe haven!
Know the Red Flags of a Battering Personality*:
1. Quick Involvement
2. Jealousy
3. Controlling Behavior
4. Unrealistic Expectations
5. Isolation
6. Blames Others for Problems
7. Blames Others for Feelings
8. Hypersensitivity
9. Cruelty to Animals and Children
10. Playful use of Force During Sex
11. Verbal Abuse
12. Rigid Sex Roles
13. Sudden Mood Swings
14. Past Battering
15. Threats of Violence
*source: Legal Aid Society of Middle Tennessee and the project for victims of Family Violence, Fayetteville, Arkansas
Where to seek help/shelter:
1) Call the 24 hour, 7 days a week National DV hotline: http://www.thehotline.org/
2) Search for shelters and help in your area: http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/
3) Share your voice. Remember: you are not alone: http://www.thehotline.org/category/share-your-voice/
Would you like to help?
Here are a few ways how:
1) Spread this blog, and other sites you've found information from to as many people as possible. NO-I am not trying to get a huge following. I am trying to EDUCATE, EDUCATE, EDUCATE! The more people that see this and at least read about it, the better.
2) Volunteer at your local domestic violence/sexual assault shelter. It is great help, a fantastic learning experience and a good deed for all involved. There are many tasks and each city or surrounding area would greatly appreciate it!
3) Donate! I've got a sidebar set up on the right hand side for donations-these will go directly to the domestic violence/sexual assault center right in my town. The funds can be used for buying items on their wish list or can be given directly as cash-YOU decide! If you don't donate to my funds-donate to the local shelter where you're from! Donations of any kind whether in monetary or goods are all helpful and beneficial to those in need.
I hope I raised you up! I hope you realize the prevalence of these issues! I hope you want to HELP! I hope you took notice, understood that this is much more common than most realize, and that there are always ways that you can help!
November is the National Domestic Violence Awareness month so let’s get some donations/volunteering and knowledge under our belts by then!
Remember to share the love,
JR
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Baby Steps
Admitting to yourself, let alone others, that you may not know something, that you're uncomfortable, scared, uneasy, etc. is never an easy task. So it's been suggested to take baby steps, a leap-of-faith.
I read a very interesting article where the writer speaks of admitting and admiring "I don't know" as an acceptable term and one in which should push people to grow. (In his case he speaks of admitting no "knowledge" to a God or to specific political factions, therefore illustrating why he believes what he does-but still interesting none the less).
I think admitting to not knowing something shows bravery-where others may lie or attempt to "know" and end up in a whirlwind catastrophe.
I think that admitting to not knowing something shows a bit of humbleness that many think humanity lacks today. I think admitting to being uncomfortable or scared or apprehensive or just plain paranoid is okay to do. When our society has pushed so hard for people to not be push overs and to stand ground and be perfect, I think it's a bit refreshing to hear someone in earnest say they don't know with confidence.
I don't understand lies-they serve no purpose to me.
I think the attempt of admitting something is such a foreign concept to people, even if it's just to themselves that once done, it's a wonderful weight off the shoulders.
The difference lies in what you do about it-not knowing something is no excuse to play ignorant/naive. Having the insight to explain that you're human and that you were not born all-knowing/fearless is necessary in rounding one out as a person and a honest soul.
Today: I have come into a situation that makes me a bit apprehensive and uncomfortable. I still feel it gnawing at the back of my mind but I have come to the conclusion that once I admitted that I was uncomfortable and indeed a bit unsettling (which normally isn't the case), it was that much easier for me to attempt to get over it. I am usually willing to admit that I don't know something and I then chose to make the attempt to know-to understand-to do away with fears-to become more comfortable-to be a more solid me. Today is one of those days.
It's all about baby steps.
What do you feel helps give you the "push" for a leap-of-faith?
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
I have found that many people have many definitions of the word RESPECT. Of what it means to give it, have it, earn it, how to loose it, learn it, keep it, etc.
And it makes me a bit uneasy, frankly. I think because I don't know how I genuinely and honestly define it in my daily life.
Okay so I'm going to give it a try:
Respect, to me, means being decent. It means believing in another person (through good and bad) and knowing that person does or tries their hardest to do the same thing for you. Decency. It means that someone you hold values in (whatever your values may be) keeps those values and sometimes even earns that "gold star" in holding said values high above the others. It means not having to always worry. I like to think of someone I respect kind of like a hero. Someone who you can admire, fear a bit, laugh with, cry on, and understand.
My mother, for example, is someone I hold in such high regards that I call her my hero and mentor and someone who I hold the utmost respect for. And, in my eyes, this is why:
1) She's selfless-she will give anyone the shirt off of her back if she knows it will bring comfort and joy into their life and she doesn't think a thing abour it once it's gone. She will never pine for that metaphorical shirt ever again and I appreciate and value that she holds a no regrets mentality when it comes to that selflessness.
2) She takes pride both in her self and her life. She has days where complaining happens but I'd wager 99% of the time she takes what she's given and what she's made and makes the very best of what she has with the time she's got.
3) She feels the same way about me. It sounds vain, but it's not meant to be. She holds me in high regard and helps me see self-worth and happiness when sometimes I'm blinded. She makes me feel like I am someone who deserves respect and have thus so earned it in the grand scheme of things and in my personal life.
So, my question to you dear followers is this, and is much needed in helping me rid of my uneasiness:
And it makes me a bit uneasy, frankly. I think because I don't know how I genuinely and honestly define it in my daily life.
Okay so I'm going to give it a try:
Respect, to me, means being decent. It means believing in another person (through good and bad) and knowing that person does or tries their hardest to do the same thing for you. Decency. It means that someone you hold values in (whatever your values may be) keeps those values and sometimes even earns that "gold star" in holding said values high above the others. It means not having to always worry. I like to think of someone I respect kind of like a hero. Someone who you can admire, fear a bit, laugh with, cry on, and understand.
My mother, for example, is someone I hold in such high regards that I call her my hero and mentor and someone who I hold the utmost respect for. And, in my eyes, this is why:
1) She's selfless-she will give anyone the shirt off of her back if she knows it will bring comfort and joy into their life and she doesn't think a thing abour it once it's gone. She will never pine for that metaphorical shirt ever again and I appreciate and value that she holds a no regrets mentality when it comes to that selflessness.
2) She takes pride both in her self and her life. She has days where complaining happens but I'd wager 99% of the time she takes what she's given and what she's made and makes the very best of what she has with the time she's got.
3) She feels the same way about me. It sounds vain, but it's not meant to be. She holds me in high regard and helps me see self-worth and happiness when sometimes I'm blinded. She makes me feel like I am someone who deserves respect and have thus so earned it in the grand scheme of things and in my personal life.
So, my question to you dear followers is this, and is much needed in helping me rid of my uneasiness:
How do you define respect?
Sunday, March 27, 2011
Boro Book Club
As you can see on my blog main page, I am a member of the Goodreads online group but that's mostly for me to keep track of what I'm reading and/or want to read and to take note on things I've already "consumed", LOL.
I've always wanted to belong to a book club, whether formal or informal. And when I went to Indiana to visit Shelley we were talking about that same type of thing and then it hit me...why can't I create the book club I so desperately want to be a part of?! So-I have started an online book club! It's via facebook so if we're friends on facebook find me and become a member (if you're not already) of the Boro Book Club. It's just a group of people with the yearning to read some good stuff!
The premise goes as such:
About a week before the 1st of the month a book or reading will be selected. This will give everyone a bit of time to get it (via online, e-readers, borrowing, or book store) and the official reading is to begin on the 1st of the month. By the 25th of the month the book/reading should be finished and then on the online forum we all discuss the book/reading, what we liked/didn't like about it and its impact on the literary world. I hope to bring about new stories to both the members and myself. I plan on making the readings broad, ranging from romance to teen drama to classics. I want all of us involved to get a firmer grasp on literature and the wonderful reads out there.
Sounds kind of fun, right? Maybe it's just because I'm a HUGE book nerd (and totally proud of it) but I'm getting really excited about it! I just hope people who are joined right now actually find interest in it and stay....
**Note-I find that I repeat the phrase: "Everyone has time to read a good book" more often than not. A friend of mine says she falls asleep reading and doesn't like to do it. My response was "Then you're not reading the right story." I think everyone has the potential to be just as big a book worm as I am IF they're reading the right stuff. I've read hundreds of books in my day and can safely say that there's a big handful of readings I'd never touch again. Glad to have read it, but found it either boring or worthless. Yes-life is SO very busy and for some who don't consider reading a relaxing hobby it seems daunting but it is a way to let the mind escape, the body rest, and the imagination to take flight if only for an hour a week. I find reading necessary to my life and even with Grad. School, a family, friends, a full time job, and other involvements, I make sure I find the time to indulge in Cap'n Ahab's whims of catching Moby or Harry's struggle with fighting Voldemort's demons or Allie and Noah's struggle in sustaining their love. It is necessary for me to realize and involve other realities within my own.
How do you feel about a good read?
I've always wanted to belong to a book club, whether formal or informal. And when I went to Indiana to visit Shelley we were talking about that same type of thing and then it hit me...why can't I create the book club I so desperately want to be a part of?! So-I have started an online book club! It's via facebook so if we're friends on facebook find me and become a member (if you're not already) of the Boro Book Club. It's just a group of people with the yearning to read some good stuff!
The premise goes as such:
About a week before the 1st of the month a book or reading will be selected. This will give everyone a bit of time to get it (via online, e-readers, borrowing, or book store) and the official reading is to begin on the 1st of the month. By the 25th of the month the book/reading should be finished and then on the online forum we all discuss the book/reading, what we liked/didn't like about it and its impact on the literary world. I hope to bring about new stories to both the members and myself. I plan on making the readings broad, ranging from romance to teen drama to classics. I want all of us involved to get a firmer grasp on literature and the wonderful reads out there.
Sounds kind of fun, right? Maybe it's just because I'm a HUGE book nerd (and totally proud of it) but I'm getting really excited about it! I just hope people who are joined right now actually find interest in it and stay....
My personal goals for the club are to: 1) Keep it sustained (meaning keep people interested), 2) Read 1 book for the club and 1 book for my personal reading a month (2 books per month), and 3) Develop more love and liking for literature (easy!).
What do you think? Are you interested in this?
The first book we're reading is Truman Capote's short novel Breakfast at Tiffany's. A pretty short read, romantic, and one I've actually never read before. Mine came in the mail this morning (!!!) and I must resist the urge to tear it open and start on page one. I've got 5 more days before I can, LOL.
How do you feel about a good read?
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Failure is not an option
Have you ever had a day where you just felt like a total failure and waste of space? Well, I have and yesterday was one of those rare occasions. Surprisingly I held myself together pretty well but at the end of the night I fell apart, weeping on my husband's shoulder and pouring my feelings of failure and frustration out.
It was unfortunate really. No one wants to feel like a failure, let alone KNOW they are for a snapshot in time, ya know? So I got my tears out, my frustrations and worries all to the tune of my husband saying words of encouragement and support in my ears in hopes of it helping alleviate my pain. This failure isn't crucial to my marriage or family but it's regarding school and if you know me, school is pretty much my thing-so detremental all the same.
Let's be real: mistakes happen and humans are just that-human.
Yet I strive for perfection as much as possible in every aspect of my life, though I do acknowledge the fact that I am a large procrastinator and a HUGE pain in my own ass. And it's really heart breaking to try and try and try at something that you know you've got awesome potential to be great in and fail.
OVER. AND OVER. AND OVER.
There's only so much this girl can take before depression sinks in and every little thing I've ever failed at comes flooding back and I want to curl up and cry and wonder why I even persist with somethings. (No, I'm not suicidal or looking for a pity party-just being honest and willing to admit that I feel like a failure sometimes!)
So I fall asleep to the very beginnings of SVU starting on the t.v. and husband gingerly wakes me up to snuggle me back in the bed while I sleep off this feeling. This morning I wake up still feeling like a failure but decide this: failure is NOT an option for me. It just isn't. I put some good music on the iPod and plopped on the Bose before heading out for my walk to campus today. Sun shining, birds chirping, light traffic...it was beautiful. So I made sure to repeat the mantra of "Failure is not an option" and "What's the worst that could happen?" so I could get in better spirits before starting my day. Well, I get to campus, do the usual (checking email, replying, sorting through my stuff to do for the day) and approach my Professor. I ask if I can have some help around noon with my midterm I am so desperately trying not to fail and he suggests he look at my data before I come in for help...I go to the other office to check my files and...they worked-all of them! I almost cry (seriously) and start smiling. I check them again to make sure I'm not insane or hallucinating and yes-they're working! I go tell him that (for now) they are working and ask if I have any other problems if I can come to him before our class (and it's due date) tonight at 6. He says sure and good luck.
And just like that-spirits soar high and smiles rapidly appear in sequence on my face. I am not a failure. I guess I just needed a restart button or something because everything has (thus far) worked out just fine while I analyze my data and draw up my conclusions on the findings.
Why is that? Did I just need a wake-up call to knock me on my ass? To realize I am not perfect and that my will power is enough and that should be enough for me? Well it worked for today.
I am SO grateful for that shining moment, coming right when I needed it.
Now-the midterm has not been submitted yet so obviously I have no idea how I did, but I feel confident that even if I make a C that I did my very best at a moment of weakness and that THAT should be enough for me.
Realization and working data sets can do that to a girl, ya know....
It was unfortunate really. No one wants to feel like a failure, let alone KNOW they are for a snapshot in time, ya know? So I got my tears out, my frustrations and worries all to the tune of my husband saying words of encouragement and support in my ears in hopes of it helping alleviate my pain. This failure isn't crucial to my marriage or family but it's regarding school and if you know me, school is pretty much my thing-so detremental all the same.
Let's be real: mistakes happen and humans are just that-human.
Yet I strive for perfection as much as possible in every aspect of my life, though I do acknowledge the fact that I am a large procrastinator and a HUGE pain in my own ass. And it's really heart breaking to try and try and try at something that you know you've got awesome potential to be great in and fail.
OVER. AND OVER. AND OVER.
There's only so much this girl can take before depression sinks in and every little thing I've ever failed at comes flooding back and I want to curl up and cry and wonder why I even persist with somethings. (No, I'm not suicidal or looking for a pity party-just being honest and willing to admit that I feel like a failure sometimes!)
So I fall asleep to the very beginnings of SVU starting on the t.v. and husband gingerly wakes me up to snuggle me back in the bed while I sleep off this feeling. This morning I wake up still feeling like a failure but decide this: failure is NOT an option for me. It just isn't. I put some good music on the iPod and plopped on the Bose before heading out for my walk to campus today. Sun shining, birds chirping, light traffic...it was beautiful. So I made sure to repeat the mantra of "Failure is not an option" and "What's the worst that could happen?" so I could get in better spirits before starting my day. Well, I get to campus, do the usual (checking email, replying, sorting through my stuff to do for the day) and approach my Professor. I ask if I can have some help around noon with my midterm I am so desperately trying not to fail and he suggests he look at my data before I come in for help...I go to the other office to check my files and...they worked-all of them! I almost cry (seriously) and start smiling. I check them again to make sure I'm not insane or hallucinating and yes-they're working! I go tell him that (for now) they are working and ask if I have any other problems if I can come to him before our class (and it's due date) tonight at 6. He says sure and good luck.
And just like that-spirits soar high and smiles rapidly appear in sequence on my face. I am not a failure. I guess I just needed a restart button or something because everything has (thus far) worked out just fine while I analyze my data and draw up my conclusions on the findings.
Why is that? Did I just need a wake-up call to knock me on my ass? To realize I am not perfect and that my will power is enough and that should be enough for me? Well it worked for today.
I am SO grateful for that shining moment, coming right when I needed it.
Now-the midterm has not been submitted yet so obviously I have no idea how I did, but I feel confident that even if I make a C that I did my very best at a moment of weakness and that THAT should be enough for me.
Realization and working data sets can do that to a girl, ya know....
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
A brief 4 day recap
Hello, hello lovelies!
Well these past 4 days have been interesting, that's for sure.
A lot of drama over nothing but of course, it seems to come with the territory...I'm not going to go in to much detail (because I've got a bit of class) but I'll say it was pointless and worthless and I'm glad it's over and we've moved on but I will say this: ANYONE who wants to talk bad about my husband has me to deal with...and it ain't always pretty, kids. I will defend my family until the day I die or am killed from it-get it?!
Okay-now no more threats and "intimidation" from me, lol (yeah right: like I could threat?!).
My allergies have come back full force and are slowly kicking my ass (again). I think it's time for another appointment to the Allergist and for an Allergy cover for my bed-I am extremely allergic to dust mites.
I have been doing pretty well with my Dictionary.com and my Wikipedia.com goals. Plus since Derrick is also kind of my personal dictionary (especially for some old school words), my vocabulary and brain are slowly expanding! My long term goals are kind of on hiatus (mostly due to funds) but with my next pay check I AM getting 1 of (potentially?) 3 study guides/vocabulary cards/books for the GRE. I'd like to take it this fall at some point and get my scores within the 6-8 week time frame...so let's aim for test in September/October, shall we? Wish me luck and I'll keep you posted.
I am slowly reading "Treasure Island". I mean I know the story (who doesn't?!) but it's still nice to immerse myself in a new piece of literature and check out the language and the actual story-ya dig? I may re-read:
Isn't it GORGEOUS?!? I know I'm biased but I see it aging very well and being able to match any occasion and any season so well. I can't wait!!!
Well these past 4 days have been interesting, that's for sure.
A lot of drama over nothing but of course, it seems to come with the territory...I'm not going to go in to much detail (because I've got a bit of class) but I'll say it was pointless and worthless and I'm glad it's over and we've moved on but I will say this: ANYONE who wants to talk bad about my husband has me to deal with...and it ain't always pretty, kids. I will defend my family until the day I die or am killed from it-get it?!
Okay-now no more threats and "intimidation" from me, lol (yeah right: like I could threat?!).
My allergies have come back full force and are slowly kicking my ass (again). I think it's time for another appointment to the Allergist and for an Allergy cover for my bed-I am extremely allergic to dust mites.
(GROSS HUH?!)
And when my allergies come back full force, it feels like I'm knocking over on my ass and I'm so tired and groggy all day long...which has made today (Wednesday) seem that much longer, lol. Hey, tomorrow is Thursday so not too many complaints, right?! =]I have been doing pretty well with my Dictionary.com and my Wikipedia.com goals. Plus since Derrick is also kind of my personal dictionary (especially for some old school words), my vocabulary and brain are slowly expanding! My long term goals are kind of on hiatus (mostly due to funds) but with my next pay check I AM getting 1 of (potentially?) 3 study guides/vocabulary cards/books for the GRE. I'd like to take it this fall at some point and get my scores within the 6-8 week time frame...so let's aim for test in September/October, shall we? Wish me luck and I'll keep you posted.
I am slowly reading "Treasure Island". I mean I know the story (who doesn't?!) but it's still nice to immerse myself in a new piece of literature and check out the language and the actual story-ya dig? I may re-read:
if I'm feeling frisky...but (thankfully!) I've read it like 720581 times so I think I'm safe for the new flick in November ;] If not this, I'll probably start on another Steinbeck...but I am VERY upset that I lost my 5 novella anthology in the move ='( *le sigh*
In other random news: Derrick uploaded "The Wild Trapeze" album onto my iPod with my (birthday!) iTunes gift card...and I'm SO excited to listen to it! This is Brandon Boyd's (lead singer of Incubus) solo album and from the 1 song I've already heard...a.m.a.z.i.n.g! I can't wait to get new head phones/ear buds (I broke my last $1 pair, lol) and jam! It should be pretty incredible-for real. If you didn't know-Incubus is my favorite band of ALL TIME...seriously...of all time. I am very excited to work out and sing off key to it!
Derrick is making boxed lasagna tonight-we could have made the home made kind...but we're lazy this week and didn't worry about it. On Saturday I'm making tacos with the "fixin's" and we also got some great chicken breasts to make with veggies a few times before next paycheck. Well done Raleys on some well rounded meals and some variety! If I come up with something new and nifty as a dish, I'll let you know the recipe.
Oh-random-but I hope to try to start collecting our dinnerware China soon. We got some glassware and flatware but none of the actual dinnerware. So...for Christmas I'm asking for pieces and I plan on starting our collection within the next few paychecks-1 piece at a time. If we can have at least 2 full sets of dinnerware come our wedding anniversary-that'd be AWESOME. That's my goal and I'm hoping to reach it!
Isn't it GORGEOUS?!? I know I'm biased but I see it aging very well and being able to match any occasion and any season so well. I can't wait!!!Okay: I know, I know...pretty pointless blog. But I was just catching up and writing helps sooth me when I'm ubber tired and just feeling blah. A new one soon-scouts honor.
Give hugs and kisses to the first person you see,
J
Sunday, June 27, 2010
You've done it again, Dan Brown!
Alright, let's get a little real: I love me some Dan Brown. For those who haven't heard the name, he is the author of: The Da Vinci Code, Angels and Demons, Lost Symbol, and Digital Fortress. Not just because I'm a fan, but I really think everyone should read at least 1 of his books-they're very thought provoking and intense. It really makes you think because it's a thriller about conspiracy theories that you may or may not have heard of, art and architecture that is very popular throughout the world, and it leaves you with questions and curiosity about man kind and society.
If you plan on reading one, I'd suggest The Da Vinci Code first. It's a great "grabber" and deals with art and conspiracy-both of which I adore (art more than the later) and takes place in the glorious city Paris, France. AND since I've been there and absolutely love the city-it made the most sense. But even still-it gets you used to the pace and characters of the others.
Anyway, I think it's safe for me to say that The Lost Symbol was my favorite. I finished reading it in approximately 3 days and it's a 509 pager. INTENSE. I'd definitely suggest it to any who enjoy Dan Brown and especially the character Robert Langdon.
I love a good book that you can't stop thinking about and want to spend all day reading-which is exactly what I did yesterday and a good bit of this morning. It reminds me of my Harry Potter obsession-and I'm totally okay with that.
I've been reading a lot lately and I notice-weirdly-that I am always in a much lighter mood when I've got a book to read at the end of the day. Not saying my life is dull or dreary, but it's nice to come home to a husband, pup, dinner and relax with a good book when a date isn't happening, ya know?? I finished The Catcher in the Rye a few days ago and I'll say it...not too impressed. Trust me, I get the story and the character but...I was just left wanting more climax and more story telling and more...substance. Criticize me if you will but those are my thoughts on it. I won't put it in my top 20, that's for sure.
Just thought I'd spread my little book knowledge and favs to those who may be interested.
I will next be starting "Treasure Island" come tomorrow.
For the rest of my evening I will clean, cook dinner, and soak up what Dan Brown has left for me after The Lost Symbol. To those interested, read it.
Ta-ta for now, loves.
If you plan on reading one, I'd suggest The Da Vinci Code first. It's a great "grabber" and deals with art and conspiracy-both of which I adore (art more than the later) and takes place in the glorious city Paris, France. AND since I've been there and absolutely love the city-it made the most sense. But even still-it gets you used to the pace and characters of the others.
I DO NOT suggest seeing this film-poorly done and completely thrown story from the book. The film Angels and Demons was a lot better and much closer to the book.
Anyway, I think it's safe for me to say that The Lost Symbol was my favorite. I finished reading it in approximately 3 days and it's a 509 pager. INTENSE. I'd definitely suggest it to any who enjoy Dan Brown and especially the character Robert Langdon.
I love a good book that you can't stop thinking about and want to spend all day reading-which is exactly what I did yesterday and a good bit of this morning. It reminds me of my Harry Potter obsession-and I'm totally okay with that.
I've been reading a lot lately and I notice-weirdly-that I am always in a much lighter mood when I've got a book to read at the end of the day. Not saying my life is dull or dreary, but it's nice to come home to a husband, pup, dinner and relax with a good book when a date isn't happening, ya know?? I finished The Catcher in the Rye a few days ago and I'll say it...not too impressed. Trust me, I get the story and the character but...I was just left wanting more climax and more story telling and more...substance. Criticize me if you will but those are my thoughts on it. I won't put it in my top 20, that's for sure.
Just thought I'd spread my little book knowledge and favs to those who may be interested.
I will next be starting "Treasure Island" come tomorrow.
For the rest of my evening I will clean, cook dinner, and soak up what Dan Brown has left for me after The Lost Symbol. To those interested, read it.
Ta-ta for now, loves.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
Goals listed: take 1
Alright, I'm getting down to business a bit with the listing of a few goals AND I'll let you in on a few that I've been in the process of lately.
Alright, major list of lifelong goals (in no specific order); we shall start with 5 for today:
1) Re-learn French-I took it for 3 years in high school and scored like 83 or something in the 80s out of 500 in the U.S. on the National French 3 test. Now this may seem tame and maybe a little lame to some but I've ALWAYS been in love with the French culture, the words, the life and I want to re-submerge myself in it. Since I am newly married and am broke, I can't afford Rosetta Stone but Derrick promised me that if we stay broke (which we probably will at least until Grad. School is over) then he'd buy it for me when he became a lawyer-a LONG way away, lol. Hopefully I can get on it a bit sooner but even still-a goal. If any of you language fiends know where I can "rent/checkout" any or buy for cheap, holla at a sista!
2) Own a home-I feel very American in saying that but I do really want to own a home. To have the decor set as we please, to take responsibility and nurture our abode to make it something we are both proud of and something we enjoy. Now I do not mean a sickly mansion or something of that obnoxious sort (I'm not that American) but a place to call home and for (potentially) our kids to come back to visit and yearn for after college. I will say a home with a wrap around porch is something I'm dying to have-regardless of the actual size of the house. Luckily Der and I have very similar style and taste in homes so ours should be a nice one once the economy picks back up and we grown a little older.
3) Donate more-I am a huge fan of charities and donations: I'm that girl that gives $1 every time at the gas station or McDonalds for cancer research and poverty stricken countries. I have heart strings in so many different places but unfortunately not much funds to help. So, when I can become a bit more stable financially, I'd like to donate a nice chunk of money to an assortment of places, people, things I feel strongly in and want to help with. I've always been a huge helper-it's in my nature and if you've ever met my mom then you'd COMPLETELY understand. Even when I have my few $'s I still try to throw a quarter in the jar or write my name on the balloon at WalMart because every bit helps and I just simply want to help.
4) Become a professor of Sociology: this is a big one for me, one in which I'm in the small process of doing. I fell in love by accident with Sociology but in retrospect I've always been a socio. just without the exact knowledge of being so. My ideal goal for this is to go to UC Berkeley or Duke and receive my masters (while Der is in law school) and then go on to achieve and reach my doctorate though the location is a bit fuzzy at the moment. Then I want to teach in a university setting. Pretty simple really but I ADORE the subjects and hope to travel in the name of research. I'm not fully sure of the specific subjects I'd like to hone in on, but I'd almost bet gender differences and/or sexual natures and preferences of the human race will probably be the winner(s).
5) Learn more-now I know that sounds pretty simple and self-explanatory but let me say that if I had the choice and didn't have to work, I'd probably go to school 24/7 and take classes and lessons on everything...for real. I have always and will always love to learn about anything. Obviously there are some things that interest me more than others but I still want to learn about those uninteresting things. I have decided to help me in this process, I am going to pull up Wikipedia every day and read their daily featured article as well as log on to dictionary.com and learn a new word and its meaning-EVERY DAY. Simple: yes. Silly: yes. But this is how we as a group can start the basic accumulation of knowledge of our world in which we live. Obviously there will be more intricacies such as buying and renting books on specific subjects and travel and experience but I think little steps make just as big as an impression as some of the large ones. And hell who knows?! Maybe if we are doing okay financially in life I can be in school full time all of the time...*sigh* I'd love it.
These are just stepping stones and long term goals I am assigning myself to. I have not set a specific time frame on any of them (though I'm sure some will come much faster than others) for the chance that they may change and may expand. That being said, I'd say when I'm 33 I will have achieved at least these 5 things-maybe even more...we shall see!
I am working on little goals that put a smile on my face and let me see things in a bit of different light.
For example, one of my daily goals is to check Wikipedia and Dictionary.com (see above for the details) and yesterday I did just that and stumbled upon a fine piece of architecture in Chicago-the BP bridge. It's really quiet nice and any of those who know me know that I LOVE art in any fashion it comes in and yes, this bridge is a piece of art. I learned about its cost, the architect, the city backlash for its naming after the huge oil tycoons (but BP paid $5 mil for help in its construction and claimed naming rights so...what were they really expecting?!), and its function in the city. Now see, look at that: you just learned something too! See what a little knowledge can do for ya?
Example #2: another daily goal is the fact that I am trying and learning to grow up a little. NOT in the sense of checking the stock market and prepping for babies (not yet anyway) but in the sense that I have some very immature and selfish tendencies that I don't like about myself and need to grow out of a bot. Granted, I accept who and what I am as human and Taurus, but that doesn't mean I have to act like a pouting 5 year old when Derrick doesn't want to eat Mexican one night or when my favorite show goes off for the season....seriously, I get like that sometimes. SO in that process, I am also making a daily effort keep myself in check when needed and to smile a bit more when things don't always flow my way. I was pissed off yesterday because I thought I had lost this blog yesterday after thinking about it all morning and this morning I come to find out that it automatically saves itself-which turned it all around for me =]
Alright kids, sorry for the overwhelming sense of goals and such-maybe the next one will be shorter?! Hah, doubt it!
Love love love.
Alright, major list of lifelong goals (in no specific order); we shall start with 5 for today:
1) Re-learn French-I took it for 3 years in high school and scored like 83 or something in the 80s out of 500 in the U.S. on the National French 3 test. Now this may seem tame and maybe a little lame to some but I've ALWAYS been in love with the French culture, the words, the life and I want to re-submerge myself in it. Since I am newly married and am broke, I can't afford Rosetta Stone but Derrick promised me that if we stay broke (which we probably will at least until Grad. School is over) then he'd buy it for me when he became a lawyer-a LONG way away, lol. Hopefully I can get on it a bit sooner but even still-a goal. If any of you language fiends know where I can "rent/checkout" any or buy for cheap, holla at a sista!
2) Own a home-I feel very American in saying that but I do really want to own a home. To have the decor set as we please, to take responsibility and nurture our abode to make it something we are both proud of and something we enjoy. Now I do not mean a sickly mansion or something of that obnoxious sort (I'm not that American) but a place to call home and for (potentially) our kids to come back to visit and yearn for after college. I will say a home with a wrap around porch is something I'm dying to have-regardless of the actual size of the house. Luckily Der and I have very similar style and taste in homes so ours should be a nice one once the economy picks back up and we grown a little older.
3) Donate more-I am a huge fan of charities and donations: I'm that girl that gives $1 every time at the gas station or McDonalds for cancer research and poverty stricken countries. I have heart strings in so many different places but unfortunately not much funds to help. So, when I can become a bit more stable financially, I'd like to donate a nice chunk of money to an assortment of places, people, things I feel strongly in and want to help with. I've always been a huge helper-it's in my nature and if you've ever met my mom then you'd COMPLETELY understand. Even when I have my few $'s I still try to throw a quarter in the jar or write my name on the balloon at WalMart because every bit helps and I just simply want to help.
4) Become a professor of Sociology: this is a big one for me, one in which I'm in the small process of doing. I fell in love by accident with Sociology but in retrospect I've always been a socio. just without the exact knowledge of being so. My ideal goal for this is to go to UC Berkeley or Duke and receive my masters (while Der is in law school) and then go on to achieve and reach my doctorate though the location is a bit fuzzy at the moment. Then I want to teach in a university setting. Pretty simple really but I ADORE the subjects and hope to travel in the name of research. I'm not fully sure of the specific subjects I'd like to hone in on, but I'd almost bet gender differences and/or sexual natures and preferences of the human race will probably be the winner(s).
5) Learn more-now I know that sounds pretty simple and self-explanatory but let me say that if I had the choice and didn't have to work, I'd probably go to school 24/7 and take classes and lessons on everything...for real. I have always and will always love to learn about anything. Obviously there are some things that interest me more than others but I still want to learn about those uninteresting things. I have decided to help me in this process, I am going to pull up Wikipedia every day and read their daily featured article as well as log on to dictionary.com and learn a new word and its meaning-EVERY DAY. Simple: yes. Silly: yes. But this is how we as a group can start the basic accumulation of knowledge of our world in which we live. Obviously there will be more intricacies such as buying and renting books on specific subjects and travel and experience but I think little steps make just as big as an impression as some of the large ones. And hell who knows?! Maybe if we are doing okay financially in life I can be in school full time all of the time...*sigh* I'd love it.
These are just stepping stones and long term goals I am assigning myself to. I have not set a specific time frame on any of them (though I'm sure some will come much faster than others) for the chance that they may change and may expand. That being said, I'd say when I'm 33 I will have achieved at least these 5 things-maybe even more...we shall see!
I am working on little goals that put a smile on my face and let me see things in a bit of different light.
For example, one of my daily goals is to check Wikipedia and Dictionary.com (see above for the details) and yesterday I did just that and stumbled upon a fine piece of architecture in Chicago-the BP bridge. It's really quiet nice and any of those who know me know that I LOVE art in any fashion it comes in and yes, this bridge is a piece of art. I learned about its cost, the architect, the city backlash for its naming after the huge oil tycoons (but BP paid $5 mil for help in its construction and claimed naming rights so...what were they really expecting?!), and its function in the city. Now see, look at that: you just learned something too! See what a little knowledge can do for ya?
Example #2: another daily goal is the fact that I am trying and learning to grow up a little. NOT in the sense of checking the stock market and prepping for babies (not yet anyway) but in the sense that I have some very immature and selfish tendencies that I don't like about myself and need to grow out of a bot. Granted, I accept who and what I am as human and Taurus, but that doesn't mean I have to act like a pouting 5 year old when Derrick doesn't want to eat Mexican one night or when my favorite show goes off for the season....seriously, I get like that sometimes. SO in that process, I am also making a daily effort keep myself in check when needed and to smile a bit more when things don't always flow my way. I was pissed off yesterday because I thought I had lost this blog yesterday after thinking about it all morning and this morning I come to find out that it automatically saves itself-which turned it all around for me =]
Alright kids, sorry for the overwhelming sense of goals and such-maybe the next one will be shorter?! Hah, doubt it!
Love love love.
Monday, March 22, 2010
There's burn coming from the oven...
YES. 52 days! WHAT!?
Okay, now that the wedding bizarre closeness is out of the way...
I'm baking some cheesy chicken alfredo while Derrick naps before his night lab. Usually, this would irk me, but since I'm reading "Sybil" and writing, I'm okay with it, ha! I know I know-it's so silly to get frustrated about things of that small magnitude but if we haven't met then this of course, wouldn't make any sense. Yet I am okay with it =]
On to other pointless news: I think I will be a re-admit to MTSU but for a B.S. in Psychology! I have already technically been readmitted but I think I stated I was undeclared because I've been bouncing back and forth between getting psychology b.s. or going on with my Masters. I think since Der still has another year of undergrad. and we can't afford for me to be totally engrossed in school right now, I'm thinking a Psychology degree would be good-especially since it's just 35 hours and I can TOTALLY do that (I think, lol). I haven't fully delved into the research of the requirements, classes, etc. but I'm liking the idea.
I really need to clean. I think I will.....after dinner, haha!
I know this is fairly pointless but I like it and it's for me mostly anyway-blog=love.
The wedding stuff if coming along well! In 2 weeks will be our wedding shower-April 3rd! From then on out time will be FLOODING over me and I may drown in the sheer excitement of it all. I've got flowers, make-up (Thanks to Kelly S.), lingerie, food, and our scrapbook to update and fully figure out. It's all details and time now! SWEET.
Love you all <3
Okay, now that the wedding bizarre closeness is out of the way...
I'm baking some cheesy chicken alfredo while Derrick naps before his night lab. Usually, this would irk me, but since I'm reading "Sybil" and writing, I'm okay with it, ha! I know I know-it's so silly to get frustrated about things of that small magnitude but if we haven't met then this of course, wouldn't make any sense. Yet I am okay with it =]
On to other pointless news: I think I will be a re-admit to MTSU but for a B.S. in Psychology! I have already technically been readmitted but I think I stated I was undeclared because I've been bouncing back and forth between getting psychology b.s. or going on with my Masters. I think since Der still has another year of undergrad. and we can't afford for me to be totally engrossed in school right now, I'm thinking a Psychology degree would be good-especially since it's just 35 hours and I can TOTALLY do that (I think, lol). I haven't fully delved into the research of the requirements, classes, etc. but I'm liking the idea.
I really need to clean. I think I will.....after dinner, haha!
I know this is fairly pointless but I like it and it's for me mostly anyway-blog=love.
The wedding stuff if coming along well! In 2 weeks will be our wedding shower-April 3rd! From then on out time will be FLOODING over me and I may drown in the sheer excitement of it all. I've got flowers, make-up (Thanks to Kelly S.), lingerie, food, and our scrapbook to update and fully figure out. It's all details and time now! SWEET.
Love you all <3
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